Lady Date

Ya'll, I have really, really big news (waaaaait for iiiiiiiiit): I have a Lady Date on Friday!
 I hesitate to call it a Girls Night, because there will just be two of us...and we met the first time at a bar, randomly, and hit it off so well that we exchanged emails and numbers on bar, I kinda feel like it's our first official date! I can't express in words how excited I am to have a potential girl friend here in Maine (if you were here with me, you could see me jumping up and down and waving my arms around, and then you might get the picture). 

It would be safe to say that I had a slow start in the Friend Department when I moved from Charlotte to Greenville two years ago (yes, I have moved twice in two years for comment). 
I not only moved into Justin's home,  but to his home town since he was a college student and into his already well formed and tight circle of friends. 
I miiiiight have been dealing with a twinge of bitterness at leaving behind my super fun, big city, cocktailing life in Charlotte and that bitterness wasn't alleviated by a luke-warm welcome into my then boyfriend's social scene. It's all (mostly) water under the bridge now, and I am lucky to have made a very dear friend from that group (who doesn't read this blog because she is sooooo busy and important, xo), Junior League friends and of course, when I began working again I made another dear friend that I am lucky to have had lunch with every single day for 16 months straight (she does read the blog, and has from day 1, and I love her for it). 
But, needless to say, that experience left me gun shy and very, very nervous to pick up and move again so quickly. I adore my Husband and Mark, the sweetest roommate ever, but honestly, a girl needs another girl to talk Spanx, leggings and Bravo with. 

So, that brings me back to tomorrow night and my extreme excitement to potentially have a real friend of my own here in the Great White Northerness of Nowhere (oh, I just came up with that...catchy!).
We're hitting up one of the two trendy spots here in Bangor for wine, apps and lots of conversation.
As far as the convo goes, I have been practicing not coming on too strong, but I have so many questions! For example, is asking "So, whose your gyno?" too much on a First Lady Date? Or how 'bout, "Where might I find a legitimate waxer in our charming town?"...too much? Just right? Maybe I ought to open with "Do you like your dentist?" and see where we end up. 
What should I wear? Right now, I am in Starbucks sans undies as I couldn't locate a box labeled "Clean Panties" anywhere in our house....yep, we're being super honest an outfit will be interesting to locate/put together. 

But no matter what, undies or no undies, I plan to count my glasses of wine so that I have just enough to be charming and funny but not so many that I am inappropriate and scare her away forever. 

No promises on how many apps I'll eat, though. She'll have to get used to my Pac-Man style of eating if she's going to stick around. 

Wish me luck! 


  1. You won't need luck! I have a feeling she will adore you and you'll hit it off right away. Maybe start with describing your love for tambourines? It seemed to work for us. Enjoy! XO

  2. "So, whose your gyno?" too much on a First Lady Date? Or how 'bout, "Where might I find a legitimate waxer in our charming town?"...too much? Just right? Maybe I ought to open with "Do you like your dentist?" and see where we end up."

    OMG now that is funny!!!!!!!!!!! Perhaps you shouldn't mention your love of fried lard or whatever it is that Monkey makes every Thanksgiving!!!

    Best of luck!!!!!!!!!!!!! XXOO, Aunt Carolyn :)

    1. I believe you are referring to Fat Back...and good call, I'll leave that out for now

    2. Yep, that was it!!! Fat Back!!!!!!!!!!! hahahahaha. XXOO :)

  3. I just found your blog (love it!) and I can totally relate! I've also moved twice in 2 years for my husband after we made some really amazing friends in DC. Its so hard finding girlfriends in a new place!! Sometimes you just need a girls night!! Good luck and have fun! :)


  4. Oh my gosh, this post cracked me up! I'm sure your Lady Date will go really well, and hopefully you'll have a new friend in Maine! I seriously had the best time with you catching up on our lunch date last month, I so wish we lived closer and not on opposite ends of the country (literally). Ugh. Hope you are settling into your new home! xoxo

  5. Good luck & have fun! I admit I'm void of lady dates after my husband and I moved from Richmond to Boston but your story proves you can meet a nice girl at a bar! Hahaha!

  6. ....Aaaand you have a brand new reader! I just found your blog & YOU ,girl, are hilarious :) I also moved from Charlotte to the north *or ehh, the northwest, right outside Chicago* so I feel your pain in a lot of your posts! I'm sure your lady date will be just fine!

  7. Good luck with your girls night. I'm right there with you, I'm a little slow on the girl friends front, mostly because I didn't go to high school (Was homeschooled all of my life) then moved after college, so i know where your coming from!


  8. I discovered your blog today on Story of my Life and I'm so glad I did! Can't wait to follow along on your adventures in Maine. I can't believe your house story, I would have been a nervous wreck! But the house is gorgeous and was meant to be. Also, you're wedding was so beautiful! And what an amazing honeymoon too! Enjoy your first girl date tonight, can't wait to hear about it! xo

  9. I did kind of the same thing when I made a friend at the gym. I kept telling my husband I was going running with "my gym friend." When we finally exchanged numbers I felt like we'd taken our relationship to the next level. Ha! Also, I'm kind of the opposite of you! I am from Chicago and moved SOUTH to Oklahoma. Land of fried food and boys with accents (aka my husband). I hope you're enjoying all the lobster and ocean air :)

  10. When I saw your blog on Story of my Life and saw that Jenni said you guys were from SC I just had to come check it out. When I saw your about me page it mentioned Clemson football, I knew I was here to stay! I moved from SC to Houston about a year and a half ago and it's been such an adjustment. I can't wait to read more!!

  11. You just be you sweet Stephanie! You will be great! This blog is amazing you are so adorable! Hope all is well up north! You'll be the hit of the town before you blink twice!


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