The Body


This post has been rolling around in my head for weeks now. 
Some days the draft takes the shape of sharing how I dress my weird post baby body, some days it looks more like a list of all of the items I've had to buy to fit my new "shape" (new shoes, anyone?) and some days I think I should just avoid the topic all together. 
So I think I'm just going to have to tackle this in the best way that I know how: complete honesty. 
Brace yourselves. 

Here's the deal: this whole body after baby thing is just plain rogue. 
It doesn't matter what you looked like prior to incubating your offspring or how much baby weight you gained, you are going to have a moment (or, more likely, a million moments) when you stand in front of all of your clothes in your closet and think "oh, eff it." 

I understand that my body somehow produced the miracle that is my fully formed human baby, but it seems that perhaps all of my better lady lumps were sacrificed to the cause. What used to be my favorite body parts have certainly seen better days and I'm not sure that they'll ever fully bounce back. 

I can't say that this realization pleases me. 

I was surprised to find that the most frustrating part of the post baby body is dressing it. I actually enjoyed getting dressed when I was pregnant. Even when only a few items of clothes fit, they were cute maxi dresses - and, let's be honest, I loved that I never had to suck my tummy in. But now my go-to jeans that made me feel slender and tailored hit at just the wrong place on my midsection. My bras are all oddly too big or too small. My slouchy tees just add to the previously established bulk. 
Thanks to a zillion reruns of "What Not to Wear", I know that the most important way to dress is to pick pieces that flatter the body that you have at this exact moment. I mean, that's great and all, but this isn't the body that I want to keep forever, so I resist purchasing new pieces that fit it. 
I think I may need to re-evaluate my strategy on that one. 

This past week I was honestly feeling really ugh about my exterior packaging.  Just all roly poly, broken out, un-maincured and sans a fun outfit to throw on. It occurred to me that while I can't change the shape of my thighs over night, I can do a better job of keeping up with my appearances, which will make me feel better in the moment. It doesn't take anything more than 5 minutes of light to moderate effort to strip off my old, chipped polish and buff my nails. A quick swipe of mascara wouldn't hurt either. And don't get me started on what a razor could do for the appearance of my legs. 

So here's the plan for wading through the postpartum waters:

start taking better care of my physical self 
(the rest of my selves are super happy and well taken care of)
purchase a few key pieces that fit well, make me feel great and are classic in style
try to wipe all baby vomit off before it dries/stains
drink more water

I hate that I don't have any advice for making it through the exhausting, draining, physically bizarre process that is the "fourth trimester", but that's what I have all of your for! For the love of all things holy, please share your post baby faves for getting dressed, feeling put together and rocking out the Fourth Tri. Love you, mean it! 


| jacket C. Wonder, old | similar | sunglasses |

7 comments

  1. I always appreciate your honesty and I know this is something I'll surely be dealing with in a few months! I think you look awesome but I totally get that it all boils down to how you feel personally...but I'm sure before you know it, things will probably start to feel more normal again :) And on the plus side, at least you're going in to Maine winter so lots of layers and leggings are completely acceptable :)

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  2. Almost 2 years after the babe, I'm still sometimes amazed at how different all the "lady lumps" are. I think what eases my mind is 1. taking care of myself (like you said) so that I feel like I'm doing what I can and 2. knowing that it was with a purpose. You look amazing and are a great Mommy - and we <3 you!

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  3. I suspect I'll be in the same boat in a few months, I think every mama is at some point. I think you look fantastic in your photos but I know hearing that doesn't always help. It sucks but I think investing in some clothing that you love on your body right now is a great idea. But don't be too hard on yourself, you are gorgeous and you will get back that hot bod! Even before pregnancy I realized I'm just getting older and shedding the pounds doesn't happen as quickly as I'd like anymore.. boo!

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  4. I had a baby in June and really struggled with not being able to fit into my clothes afterwards. It was a huge reality check when I went to try on new pants and had to go up a few sizes. I bit back my pride and bought several pairs in larger sizes, realizing that they flatter me better, make me feel more comfortable, and can always be tailored if I go back down to my pre-pregnancy size. Plus, nobody but me knows what size I wear. I think we are our harshest critics. Like you said, it's important to wear clothes that flatter you rather than what's "in" or is cute on a different body type.

    My biggest advice is to get new panties that fit and are cute. ;) That has seriously made all the difference for my confidence, knowing I'm not creating any weird lumps with too-small low-riders. I treated myself and basically threw all of my old underwear away and bought a whole new set. Trust me- your husband won't complain that you're spending money on that! I'm not just blowing smoke, but you look great and your baby is adorable! Good luck and remember that it will take time to feel like yourself again.

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  5. thanks for keeping it real as usual! and great tips! im sure it's frustrating when your clothes dont fit like they used to before baby but i think it's a great idea to take some time for yourself and focus on the little things that will make you feel better! xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  6. So I'm not going to lie...It can take a full 9 months to feel like yourself again. At least it did for me and a lot of other ladies that I've talked to. It's a weird thing, but the whole 4th trimester seems to be mostly lived with a layer of fog and maternity clothes and then you realize the rest of the baby weight is not just going to fall off. That sucks. You will eventually feel comfortable in your clothes again, but our bodies do shift and move and things will most likely fit differently. It does get better and just enjoy lots of leggings and big sweaters this fall and work your butt off now to rock an awesome post baby body come spring :) xoxo

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  7. We are so on the same blog page today! Yesterday I allowed myself to get real sad when I realized not much was fitting me. All these clothes and literally nothing to wear.Trying not to be too hard on myself though and realizing that it will take some time. Damn, men have it so easy!

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